If you ever know someone grieving a spouse, I recommend sharing A Grief Observed with them. The great thing is, they certainly won't come away from it thinking that he doesn't relate to the extent of their pain!
He also viewed the loss of a spouse like an amputation.
-I compared it to the loss of an arm the other day, and he compares it to the loss of a leg. I felt so understood when I read this and that was fun!
But I hope for all the world that you don't relate to it at all and never do! : )
"Getting over it so soon? But the words are ambiguous, to say the patient is getting over it after an operation for appendcitis is one thing, after he's had his leg off it is quite another...
Presently he'll get back his strength and be able to stump about on his wooden leg.
He has "got over it." But he will probably have recurrent pains in the stump all his life,
and perhaps pretty bad ones; and he will always be a one legged man. There will be hardly any moment when he forgets it. Bathing, dressing, sitting down and getting up again, even lying in bed, will all be different. His whole way of life will be changed. All sorts of pleasures and activities that he once took for granted will have to be simply written off. Duties too.
At present I am learning to get about on crutches.
Perhaps I shall presently be given a wooden leg.
But I shall never be a biped again." ~C.S. Lewis
Gotta love Lewis!
P.S. Please, don't be that friend that says "It is time to get over it."