August 29, 2015

Life is one wild ride

It is amazing to me that two and a half weeks ago our life was normal and now it has taken all these crazy twists and turns. It seems to have been turned inside out and shaken.
Never take your 'normal' for granted!

Everything is kind of a blur and it has been a very emotional week for our family.That hospital stay made it feel like time stood still, but of course, it didn't and now the calendar in my head is off. Also, I'm not sure what I have shared here and what posts I just 'wrote' in my head.

Wednesday we received some bad news at the cancer hospital and so we are clinging to the Good News of the gospel!
The esophageal cancer that Hubby had last year has moved to his lungs. I'm reminding myself that the 'stages' and the terms are man's definitions and God is above all of these! And nothing is impossible for Him.

Yesterday, Hubby started an aggressive chemo plan. You know you are in the infusion center, when you see a grown woman hugging her teddy bear and waiting for treatment.
Chemo is rough!!!
Frankly, I can't believe Hubby has to do it again. So far he feels good, but that is due to some lovely steroids that you have to take before and after. He may not be feeling well for long...
 but he SHOULD be feeling OK for Zac's wedding, which is I think, two weeks away! Thankful for that!

What makes my heart so sad about doing chemo is the fact that last time either it or the drugs changed his personality for a time. And then he went into an almost comatose kind of state for awhile and it was like he wasn't there. Then add to that the unbearable suffering we all had to witness him go through and well, you get the idea....It was awful.
So, this time I kind of know what to expect (but I'm absolutely believing for better!!!) and I feel like the guy he is, is about to leave me for an extended time and that makes me so sad...

Nathan is leaving CA and moving home to be with us for the next several months and we are all so thrilled about that. What a dear young man to put his life on hold and want to come home and serve us and spend time with his Dad. May God bless him!

Two weeks ago, when we were in the ER, a doctor came in and told us Hubby had fluid in his left lung and that it was probably caused by cancer...so I shed some tears of course, and she said some comforting things and then left. Next, the resident physician took a turn coming in and he knew we had just heard that news. But by then, I think Hubby had said something funny anyway, we were both smiling when he walked in and he was almost angry. (weirdest thing!)  And then he said "Are you _____(Hubby's full name)? Then why are you smiling?!" He was serious.
(How is that for no bed side manner, good grief?!)
But if I had to relive that situation again, I would like to have had the presence of mind to say
"Because he knows The Great Physician, Jesus!"

Even in suffering he smiles!
It is that glorious Good News that will do that to a guy!

Blessings,
~Becky

August 26, 2015

Wednesdays in the Word

If you somehow missed Kathie Lee Gifford's tribute to her husband, Frank, last week, you have to watch it. Hubby and I watched it on FB in the hospital and cried like babies. 
It was such a beautiful presentation of the gospel!!! And so very inspiring! 




~Becky

August 25, 2015

Home from the hospital and loving it!

First of all, all of you healthcare professionals out there, have my heart forever! What amazing people you are! What kindness and mercy you extend to those in pain! You chose to help people in crisis who are not at their best and sometimes far from being congenial. You rock!
~My hubby happens to be every nurses's dream patient because he is so kind, polite and calls everyone by name, no matter how much pain he is in. He's just amazing like that!

Anyway, Hubby got discharged yesterday!!! Whoo-hoo!
And when they say you can go, they mean it. They had us out the door in 15 minutes! I was shocked because when the cancer hospital discharged him it was a long process and it took hours before we were actually walking out of the door, but not at this hospital. I packed like the building was on fire and Hubby was so glad to leave, he waited for the transporter in the hallway! Bless him!

It is so good to be home, especially in light of hospital Roommate #5. But that is a story for another day. Tomorrow, he has an appointment with the cancer hospital and today he gets to rest in PEACE and QUIET!

~Becky


August 22, 2015

Update on my hero

Hubby had surgery on Thursday and it went well. They drained two  and a half liters from his left lung!

Yesterday we had to send his brother (who is a stroke patient) back to their other brother in CA. We felt bad that we had to cut our caregiving turn short this way. But it was necessary.

I think this is a sweet picture. They were saying goodbye:



Today has been rough. Hubby will have a CAT scan and a blood transfusion.
Prayers appreciated!

~Becky




August 19, 2015

Round 2

Yes, it is cancer...again....

So, I cried, of course. We called our kids and family and we texted our friends. Then we got some wonderful wise counsel from our pastor and we made an action plan.

After all of that I climbed in his bed and we took silly, hospital bed selfies because,
"the joy of the Lord is our strength."  : )





~Becky

August 18, 2015

Still waiting for results

We are still waiting on the test results and praying it is not the reoccurrence of cancer. Nothing happens quickly in a hospital, it seems.
 Everyday we hear the word 'tomorrow.'
So, we just continue to wait ...

Hubby"s roommate, Bert, facetimed his dogs the other day! LOL
Then things really livened up when Bert's friend snuck both dogs up to the hospital room in some luggage! The nurses pretended not to notice!

Bert has since been discharged, just in time to attend his daughter's beach wedding in Malibu. Let"s hope he doesn't bring the dogs! ;)
She is having another wedding in England next year because that is where her finance is from. Can you imagine planning two weddings!? Pretty sure all the young brides-to-be that I know, are glad this is a one time thing!
Zac's big day is 23 days away! Which means we need Hubby well ASAP, in Jesus' name! Thanks for praying!

~Becky


August 17, 2015

In honor of the first day of school

I've been home schooling our kids for 17 years now and I'm on the homestretch! Whoo-hoo!
-Our youngest starts 11th grade next week!
(insert shameless plug here, for Hubby to take me on a cruise after Andrew graduates!) ;)

The other day,  I found a stack of some of my favorite quotes about parenting and homeschooling that encouraged me when my kids were little and became rather near and dear to my heart on this journey:

 "Right is right even if no one is doing it! Wrong is always wrong even if everyone is doing it." 

"Boys and girls must have time to invent episodes, carry on adventures, live heroic lives, lay sieges and carry forts, even if the fortress be an old armchair, and in these affairs elders must neither meddle nor make."  ~Charlotte Mason  1907

"I give my children their best theological education by seeking to really know and love God in my own life and then living my life out before my children." ~Sally Clarkson

"People ought to exercise everyday...yet more than a third of the our children don't get an hour's worth of exercise in a week. How about parents playing a games with their children in the backyard for 30 minutes or an hour? It would be good fort he parent, and its's good for the family." ~ Former President George W. Busch

"Trust God with the design of our children and allow them to be who God made them to be. By accepting them we affirm God's excellent design. Don't expect a monkey to act like a butterfly or a buffalo to behave like a mouse." ~Sally Clarkson

"Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children." ~ Charles Swindoll

"What you do in your house is worth as much as if you did it up in heaven for our Lord God. We should accustom ourselves to think of our position and work as sacred and well pleasing to God, not on account of the position and work, but on account of the Word and faith from which the obedience and the work flow." ~Martin Luther

"When you love and obey Jesus, you will have joy. When  you have joy in our heart, you will be filled with the Spirit of God. When the Spirit of God fills  your household, you will have absolutely no trouble being a relaxed, joyful, and enthusiastic homeschooling mom!" ~Mary Hood

"Make a habit of saying out loud, many times a day, 'I am so thankful for my sweet little girl. I want to praise God He gave me a fine son like you. Thank God He has blessed us with a daddy who takes care of us. God has made such a beautiful day, let's run outside and say 'thank you' to God. Let's thank God for all the different kinds of food He's given us.' Let your life be made up of thankfulness, your mind full of appreciation, your words crowded with praise, your countenance beaming with joy...Your children will hunger and thirst to walk with your Savior." ~Debi Pearl

"Don't our children need to learn how to cook, clean, sew, grocery shop, care for others, plan a household budget, pay bills, work on the car, make home repairs, garden, mow the lawn, and so on? I used to feel guilty if I took time from academics to teach my children some of these skills. I thought I was depriving them of a good education, but in reality a well-rounded education encompasses real-life skills. I was apprehensive about training them in these less academic areas because I had nothing tangible, such as written piece of work , to show that I was indeed instructing my child. If my child spent forty-five minutes on a math page, I then had proof that education was taking place. But if my children spent two hours planning and preparing a meal, there was nothing tangible to represent this as education, although many skills are necessary to perform this task....
Have your older child plan the family meals for a week. You can record this as Dietary Planning. Do your children like to draw, make art projects, paper crafts and so on? Log theses as Creative Expression or Art. Do your children clip coupons and help you grocery shop? This is Food Budget Analysis and Planning. Do  your children fold laundry, sweep floors, clean tables, dust, make beds, vacuum, clean bathrooms, practice an instrument, play ball, ride bikes, skate..if the answer is 'yes' to any of these then you can devise a category to log these educational experiences...If they sit and around and watch TV or play video games, then your logbook may be nearly blank, but if they are involved in real-life activities, even on a day when schoolwork isn't implemented, you should be able to just about fill a page with the educational activities of each of your children..." ~Valerie Bendt

For those of you home educating older students, please visit this post where Sally Clarkson quotes what a CEO is looking for in a college graduate and this article called "How My Mother Homschooled Me without Screwing up My Life" -Good stuff!!! : )

~Becky